As I prepare to conclude my participation in the programme, I thrust my mind back to the outset and the reasons I joined. These thoughts summarise why I have to profess my pride in having run the course and hopefully helped some very willing and able parents to have a child/children of their own. The benefits brought to many thousands of caring parents whom require fertility treatment must make the LSB’s programme both incredibly worthwhile and, in my own experience, very personally beneficial in finding out more about the people we are and the great gifts we possess.
Personally, having a very faithful; thence fatalistic background, I had to search my conscience to find comfort in engaging in the programme. Aspects of my religious upbringing make the process quite uncomfortable and therefore what I have done for the good of others does not conform to what I would say are the rubrics of my personal ethics. Or, should I say, what were my personal ethics. Fortunately for me, I have benefited from different educative schools and I took a utilitarian viewpoint when weighing-up the decision to donate. I would describe myself as a straight, reasonably-conservative and old-fashioned, young man with traditional views on bringing children into the world: mother and father, 2.4 children, nice family home. What I had to do; or more-so, decided to do – was to look at the situation objectively.
The modern world allows us all to thoroughly enjoy our differences; in ethnicity, creed, culture and many other areas. There are no longer the outmoded restrictions and discriminations regarding sexuality, gender, colour, physical ability and such. So my mindset of the typical family is rather narrow; though I am proud of who I am – there are many other people who are incredibly capable of bringing-up children.
Having overcome my initial inhibitions, I have to say that I am greatly pleased with the decision to join the programme. In my earnest opinion, there must be hundreds of thousands of men, in London alone, whom can painlessly (quite the opposite, rather) help innumerable potential parents. The people whom utilise fertility treatments are both screened – rather scrutinised – and, more importantly, incredibly devoted to the notion of parenthood.
What grates at me a little is that the LSB programme is so logical. Most men, since puberty, have somehow engaged in masturbation, often by desire; more pressingly by necessity. This is a fact which is irrefutable and perhaps ought not be such a cause of shame as it often is for the young, particularly. Irrespectively, the programme gives men an outlet for this, covers expenses and aids other people.
My final point is the personal mental and health and fitness benefits that the programme brings. Going through the initial tests is a little bit of an ego boost. Ascertaining virility can give the confidence a lift. Then there are the tests; a little blood, some urine & a physical examination. At the end of this, there is room to appreciate the lack of illness, disease, infection.
(Names have been changed to protect the donor’s anonymity)